Wednesday, April 22, 2020

You Are Easy to Love

“You’ve got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down.” —Annie Dillard

The world is growing darker. Fate is showing teeth, and what used to be a smile is starting to look a lot like a sneer. Pain and Uncertainty are weaving a dread-kissed shroud around everything—all our souls see, all our breastbones feel… seems to reach us through the taint of hurt. These days, it’s hard to love the world and even harder not to renounce all hope. But it’s so easy to love (and care for) you always.

on your birthday, give
your Self the gift of knowing
how much you matter


the wee notes

- when I first became seriously ill, I used to feel wretched every time I thought about how difficult my illness was on loved ones who had to spend so much of their time helping me through it. Who wants to be a burden, right? I remember thanking my Piano Man over and over… And I remember him telling me that helping me made him feel better (I didn’t always believe him). Then, someone I love became seriously ill. And all I can think about is that I (and everyone who loves her) would do anything to make her life easier, to remind her how much she matters. Today is her birthday, and I wish her strength, health, smiles (and wings).  

- linked to Poets and Storytellers United (Weekly Scribblings #16: Re-Verse) and to the Imaginary Garden with Real Toads’ prompt for April 22nd: Poets of April

- and as always, stay safe.

Rebirth, by Patricia Ariel

39 comments:

  1. Every year you are here is a celebration. This seriously brought tears to my eyes. Your wee notes add such poignancy to the feeling. It particularly struck a chord as I had two birthdays this month that we couldn't celebrate in the usual way.

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    1. The current situation seems to touch everything we do (or can't do as usual).

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  2. Loving is always easier than hating, and embracing hope is always easier than renouncing it, don't you think?

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    1. I think it's easier for me and for many, but not for some. I think that if it was easier for them, they might do it. I doubt anyone wants to truly suffer on purpose.

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  3. Much love and wisdom in this post, Magaly!

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  4. You are the friend everyone longs to have ... you are the person in need everyone longs to help ... this is a beautiful birthday wish for your friend. I add my best wishes.

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    1. You say the loveliest things, Helen. Thank you.

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  5. A lovely introspective journey on the topic of giving and receiving. I was told once to remember to receive gracefully so as not to spoil the joy of the giver. Good advice.

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  6. The image of "fate showing its teeth," is both poignant and telling of the times we are living in at present. I resonate with caring, feeling and doing things for the ones we love and who are going through difficult stages of life. 💝💝

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    1. I think that at the current time, fate is even showing her molars.

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  7. Give my warm wishes to the birthday girl. I hope her day is filled with love and hope.

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  8. Best wishes for love and comfort to your friend Magaly
    Happy you dropped by my blog today

    Much💛love

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  9. It is so hard to be in a place when you need care, feel like a burden. It doesn't come from those who love you. You feed plumbs to your own dragon and wonder why you maned him guilt. Bless your friend and those who love her.

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  10. My darling husband Andrew needed a lot of looking after during illness, in what turned out to be his final years. It was hard on us both in various ways – yet also beautiful, and I now treasure the memories of that time, because it was when we both entered completely into our unconditional love for each other.

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    1. I agree. Both needing and giving help birth weirdly complicated feelings. And like you suggest, wonderful emotions too--I always knew my Piano Man loved me, but I never had so much proof as when my illness was at is worst.

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  11. And Magaly, your befriending her more at a time in her life like this means so much more than any of us could ever possibly help.
    I will add a HAPPY BIRTHDAY as that greeting is really meant to induce a smile or smiles, no one will be deeply happy when they are sad over a hurt, physically or mentally. We feel sad ourselves over a friends troubles.
    Thank you for hosting and thank you for peeking in on me. I wanted to do the Earth Day on its own day. Some might make this fit here, I could not.
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  12. If we don't love ourselves how can we love other people?

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  13. Belated happy birthday to your friend!

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  14. A wonderful quote, narrative, poem, note and artwork! Many blessing on birthdays!

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  15. Your haibun expresses true love and friendship, Magaly, in a way only you can do it. You always think of others, even in the darkest times. A beautiful birthday wish. Pass on a happy birthday from me, too.

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  16. Very beautiful, wise and moving piece, Maga. I choked tears because I can relate to both angles; having been cared for and caring for loved ones.

    What touches me most is this line, "But it’s so easy to love (and care for) you always." It captures the beauty of giving without wanting something in return. Something that's rather rare in our world, nowadays.

    Warmest wishes to the birthday girl. May she blossom in the knowing that she is loved! <3

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  17. A long sigh from a beating heart. May brillant wings sprout from all that are cocooned in life's transformations. Belated birthday blessings to thy friend.

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  18. Very beautiful, my beautiful friend! Lots of love and wisdom in this post! Big Hugs!

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  19. What a wonderful tribute to your friend. What you describe is is so often the case...feeling like a burden...when all people want to do is make you feel loved. I'm glad you are able to pay it forward...and wish your friend a peaceful recovery.

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